This morning I am sharing about a post called “Why Didn’t She Leave” from the brand-new Wellness Universe, the first of its kind Facebook Directory. The post was written by Rebel Thriver (Ella), from her own experience and recovery. Her constant encouragements through her Facebook posts help 89,426 followers every day by this morning’s count. I’ll post an excerpt below after I explain more about this exciting new healing resource. Her WordPress blog is here.
Why am I sharing this?
- Because Ella has written a powerful post on domestic abuse and trauma bonding, based on her own life in an abusive relationship, which is well worth sharing. Everyone should read it, since so many of us have had this unhappy experience.
- Because Rebel Thriver is awesome and I have long admired her work on Facebook supporting and empowering others, and now she has written a blog post on this website.
- It’s a win-win – you read her post about domestic violence and are introduced to this awesome new wellness resource. This morning is the launch of The Wellness Universe, a first-of-its kind website directory of Facebook resources for healing and wellness of every kind…emotional, physical, spiritual, occupational, social, intellectual – even environmental.
You can’t search Facebook for pages related to a particular keyword. UNTIL NOW. This directory solves that problem for people looking for wellness resources. They have sifted through thousands of sites to find the ones offering original content that will be of most benefit to the seeker.
- And because I am a proud member, listed here... In the sidebar next to the listing is a HUGE list of keywords relating to the resources you will find on this site. My facebook page that is linked to this blog is included, and I couldn’t be more pleased. You can apply for your original content FB healing page to be listed too as a “best resource,” by applying on the Wellness Universe site.
- This post is about Facebook and my work there because I post more often on Facebook than I blog her – because I love creating beautiful posts like this one. I have found a number of kind and generous photographers who have given me permission to use their images in my posts, and making them is a meditative practice. Today’s post is the first in a series of posts featuring the work of Thich Nhat Hanh, a masterful teacher who has helped to change my life and the image is from Rose Marie, a Norwegian whose work I just found and was graciously given permission to use.
Enough about me and about The Wellness Universe – on to an excerpt from Rebel Thriver’s awesome post, which I hope you go on over and read.
So, why didn’t she just leave? Why didn’t I just leave? Please feel free to insert your mother, sister or daughters name here because it very easily could be anyone. If this can happen to me then it most certainly can happen to you. What you need to understand is that domestic violence systematically breaks down a person’s sense of self. It doesn’t start with a knock out in an elevator. It is much more seductive than that. It creeps in slowly and knows how to bend and manipulate the mind of a person who is truly trying to love. Simply put, it is a “mind fuck”. We have seen kidnapping victims fall into life with their abductors and fail to run away when presented with a clear opportunity. When you are living in the middle of a situation like this there are so many factors that prevent you from leaving, but the main underlying issue is often Stockholm syndrome (trauma bonding). This suggests that the bonding is the individual’s response to trauma in becoming a victim. Identifying with the aggressor is one way that the ego defends itself. When a victim believes the same values as the aggressor, they cease to be perceived as a threat. This is also known as survival to the abused….read more