Sadly, many of us have learned to protect ourselves by blocking access to our emotions. We do this with defenses, the protective armor we wear to avoid feelings. Our thoughts and our defenses are sometimes the same. Thinking moves us away from our deepest emotional truths.
I do not suggest that we stop thinking, quite the contrary. I love thinking and I enjoy my thoughts. Plus, spending all day living in vulnerable and emotional states is not practical. Not at all! We need to think and perform at our jobs and we need healthy defenses to move away from emotions at times.
Most of us, however, only pay attention to our thoughts. We can absolutely build flexibility to more freely glide from thoughts to emotions and back.
One way we can achieve more balance between our thoughts and feelings is to pay some attention to what we feel in our bodies, the place where our core emotions reside.
Head. Heart. Repeat.
Want to experiment with building mental flexibility?
Let’s move from the head to the heart and back again with this quick and simple taste of what I mean:
Focus on your thoughts. What are you thinking right now? Can you answer out loud or in your head as if you are talking to me?